Discarding information from the brain is associated with more mental effort than keeping it, finds a human neuroimaging study published in JNeurosci. These results suggest moderately reactivating the memory of an unwanted experience may be required to forget it.
but never forget it. Instead, hold its lessons and happy memories close to your heart, let all that build you into an even better person. There is no reason to hang onto past regret and pain. But there is a reason to remember it—to keep this from happening in the future, to protect yourself, to be aware.
So why does this happen in the first place? Lack of self-love, low self-worth, unawareness, and fear are at the core are all reasons that can explain why people get stuck in the past, says life coach and breathwork teacher Gwen Dittmar.
Reasons you live in the past may include traumatic experiences, fear that it will happen again, or shame that it ever did. You may also wish to change an outcome, hang on to the fear of the present or future, or worry that you will never experience a deep emotion, like love, again.
Obviously, not all memories go to the long-term stage; instead, your brain consolidates certain memories and discards others.In fact, previous research has shown that people can actually train themselves to forget things on purpose. Basically, you already forget some things on a daily basis, and that's not a bad thing.
Over several decades, researchers have shown remembering your past is fundamental to being human, and has four important roles. Our personal memories give us a sense of continuity — the same person (or sense of self) moving through time. They provide important details of who we are and who we would like to be.
Neuroimaging studies have demonstrated which brain systems play a part in deliberate forgetting, and studies have shown that it is possible for people to deliberately block memories from their consciousness.
For those who struggle with letting go of past pain or regret, they can feel trapped by their situation and unable to move forward in their lives. Feeling unable to let go of the past can lead to clinical depression, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), or even suicide.
When trauma impairs your ability to develop full emotional maturity, this is known as arrested psychological development. Trauma can “freeze” your emotional response at the age you experienced it. When you feel or act emotionally younger than your actual age, this is known as age regression.
To confirm identity or world view: People often cycle through stories of the past to remind themselves of who they are and how they view the world. The less secure they are in their sense of identity and world view, the more likely they are to do this. This practice inhibits grieving.
Why am I suddenly remembering my childhood trauma?
Reemergence of memories usually means that there was some form of trauma, abuse, neglect or emotional hurt that was experienced years ago, but was repressed because you were not in a safe or stable enough place to heal it.
Children who are experiencing trauma or have experienced it in the past exhibit different common symptoms of it, depending on their age group. Preschool-age children: Frequently crying or screaming. Demonstrating separation anxiety.
So give it a try: Start with sitting, and focusing on your breath for five minutes. If your mind wanders, just observe that wandering, with a sense of curiosity, and pull it back to your focus. That part – the pulling the mind back, again and again – is really the heart of the practice.
In fact, "thought-chatter" is completely normal for human beings. Usually, whenever our attention isn't occupied, a stream of mental associations flows through our minds — thoughts about the future or the past, fragments of songs or conversations, daydreams about alternative realities or friends or celebrities.