If someone has stopped talking to you, it could mean many things: they might be busy, overwhelmed, depressed, angry at you, or disinterested in continuing a relationship for another reason. When we don't get an explanation, it's up to us to try to figure out what happened.
What to do if someone randomly stops talking to you?
Send a text or note asking whether the issue was why you haven't heard from your friend. Make an honest apology. Ask what you can do to make things right and move forward. Avoid calling your friend out on social media or in front of your other friends.
Why does it hurt when someone stops talking to you?
You are going to fix things. When a friend just stops talking to you, they violate your relationship agreement. It's that kind of unsettling and selfish decision that can cause you to reevaluate and reassess all your other relationships.
Maybe you become clingy and needy in your friendships – or at the other extreme, you might pull away completely. If you faced a lot of loneliness growing up, you might not fear being alone as such but the risk of losing someone again is simply too much to bear. So perhaps you avoid friendships altogether.
The most significant factors in ending a friendship were discovered to be, broadly, selfishness, being more likely to end friendships with those who looked after their own interest, were not supportive of them, were dishonest, and were taking without giving, among the prime reasons.
Do they avoid initiating contact? This is usually the most obvious sign that a friend doesn't want to spend time with you. If someone doesn't like your company, they will naturally make less of an effort to stay in touch. Instead, you'll often find yourself calling or texting or making plans first.
It could simply be a byproduct of a demanding schedule that requires more of your friend's time and energy. Or maybe they are dealing with something in their life that is taking up time or emotional space, such as caring for someone else or dealing with their own mental health.
But here are some possibilities you might want to consider while you wait for them to contact you again: Your friend had a sudden emergency. They are going through something emotionally difficult. They are overwhelmed with school or work.
Many guys hate failing and feeling inadequate. They often don't have the speed of words to compete with their partner in a conflict. Men's emotional processing capacity is often much slower than their partner. Whilst being silent is a sign of a man's need to process it is also a way to avoid the feelings of defeat.
"If you are finding your friend only pops up when they need something or they are going through a hard time — but often go silent or provide very little in your time of need — it's time to say bye to this friend."
Many men don't know how to manage their feelings. Many men pull away because they are afraid of getting hurt, afraid of coming on too strong, and afraid of commitment. When men pull away, many of them come back. A mature man doesn't pull away from a woman he likes for very long.
Can a guy like you even if he doesn't talk to you?
You see him here and there. He seems to show up in every place where he knows you go often. If this happens over at least a few months, yes, there may be something there. Even if he doesn't talk to you, if he always finds a way to sit next to you or be close to you, that is definitely some good signs he likes you.
Research shows that most of us replace our friends, intentionally or not, fairly often. Live Science says that "when it comes to your close friends, you lose about half and replace them with new ones after about seven years."
Even if you've been friends with someone for a long time, people can grow apart or no longer put equal effort and care into the relationship. If you can't count on them, or feel like you're doing all the work to maintain the friendship, it's okay to go with your gut and cut it off.
Many scenarios of social exclusion happen by mistake. Maybe someone thought you were busy that day or wouldn't be interested in attending. Sometimes, however, not being included can stem from a deliberate omission. Bullying someone by intentionally leaving them out can also transfer into the online world.
Fear of abandonment is the overwhelming worry that people close to you will leave. Anyone can develop a fear of abandonment. It can be deeply rooted in a traumatic experience you had as a child or a distressing relationship in adulthood.